Feeling unsure about who you are does not make you a nobody. All it means is that you have not worked out exactly who you are… yet. These ideas will help you to view your insecurity and uncertainty as opportunities to grow and connect with your true self.  


The most reliable approach to finding yourself is getting lost. If you can take yourself out of your usual context—your house, your job, your group of friends—you’re creating space for yourself to try on new identities on for size, allowing you to see who you want to be. When nobody you’re interacting with knows who you are, you are at liberty to be you. Whether you start searching for Caribbean cruise deals or start planning your backpacking adventure around India, leaving your home town or city is the perfect opportunity to work out who you are. Not only will travel expand your horizons, but the disruption of your routine could open up your sense of what kinds of lifestyles are possible for you. Why exactly do you live where you live? Why do you do the work you have chosen to do? What choices have brought you here? There’s nothing quite like traveling for helping you realize that you can choose a less conventional life if you want to.

Explode Your Comfort Zone

When you’re feeling unsure about who “you” are, one of the greatest challenges is feeling confident enough to go out and meet new people. Rather than feeling embarrassed that you don’t have a solid sense of yourself at this stage in your life, try to embrace your state of being ‘in flux’. Owning this exciting state of being by allowing people to see that you’re engaged in an important process of seeking meaning and self-discovery will ensure that the people you do connect with are prepared to accept you as you are. You have to be brave to be open about your lack of understanding, and people will respect you for that. 

Do What You Enjoy

When you don’t know who you are, it can be hard to know how to spend your time in a positive and satisfying manner. Start small: remember the little things that you may have done in your life that gave you joy. Then do that. If you enjoy the smell of fresh-cut grass? Why not mow the lawn? If you like swimming, get a membership at your local pool. Love your own company? Why not spend a weekend alone? Once you have managed to reconnect with the little things that make you happy, it may be time to move on to more significant things, like deciding on potential careers. If you’re unsure what job you want to do, try to remember when last you felt really motivated by what you were doing. This may have been in preschool, but who cares? It might give you some clues to how you want to spend your time. 

If you’re looking for clues about your true identity and you need direction in life, don’t worry. It’s natural to feel unsure, and questioning your identity is healthy. These tips will help you find your way.