Loved up? Thinking of living together? No Plans to tie the knot? That’s great, but there are a few things that you need to know if you’re planning on cohabiting (not the most romantic way of putting it, is it?) with your partner…
It’s Not (Always) a Sign of Commitment
You might think that making the decision to move in together is a big step; a big commitment, but that might be overstating it a little because a study conducted in 2013 found that 41 percent of men who were cohabiting were not totally committed to the women they were cohabiting with. It’s likely that a similar number of women feel the same way. So, try not to read too much into it.
I mean, it’s obvious really because when you’re living together, you get all of the benefits that come with being in a close relationship without any of the risks and responsibilities that come with marriage.
You Probably Won’t Get Married
A large proportion of people (particularly men) who are living with a partner do not believe that they will end up marrying them because they don’t believe that they are their soul-mate, according to a study by Whitehead and Popenoe conducted in 2002.
The ‘Need’ to Marry becomes Less Urgent
Some research carried out in Australia a few years ago found that, even in cohabiting couple, the women take the back seat when it comes to proposing marriage, and they often have to wait a long time, if it happens at all, simply because the couple are already living together, and for many of them, particularly men, it seems like there is no real urgency to do so. After all, they are practically living like a married couple as it is.
Cohabiters Last Longer than They Should
Quote often, cohabiting couples stay together long after the magic has gone and when both parties should really be moving on simply because it’s easier. If they were to split up, they’d have to sort out the mortgage, work out who gets the dog or where the kids live etc.. That causes them to stay even when they don’t want to.
No Automatic Rights
When two people get married, they each have rights to one another’s wealth, assets, property, etc., to varying degrees, When they are cohabiting, there are no automatic rights, which means that, if you’re cohabiting, you might want to visit Slater Heelis who are a full-service solicitors to get some sort of agreement about your arrangements on paper. The last thing anyone wants id to be left with nothing when a relationship they’ve contributed to breaks down.
Breakups are More Common
49 percent of couples who are living together unmarried split up within five years, whereas only 20 percent of married couple break up in the same period of time. Not only that, but couples who cohabit before they do eventually tie the knot are also more likely to break up in the end. That means that, if you’re serious about sticking together and avoiding singledom, you might have to rethink the whole white dress, church aisle, document signing thing. Then again, you should always do what’s right for you.
I hope this helps you to make the right decision about your living arrangements, know your rights, and have the best possible relationship experience you possibly can.