Finding a healthy relationship and a partner who you want to spend your time with can be difficult. It’s why the online dating industry is expected to become worth $12 billion. People are paying hundreds of dollars to try to find love. If it was easy, no one would spend a single cent.

If you’re one of those people who is wondering why their love life is in poor shape, then don’t feel glum about it. Before you reach into your purse and get ready to throw cash at Tinder, Bumble, or any of the many other dating sites, take a few steps to fix your love life first.  

Stop Settling

One reason why relationships fail is that you discover that you and your partner just aren’t compatible. You’ve spent a few weeks trying to make it work but it’s just not happening because you’re just too different.

The truth is that there were probably a few indications that things weren’t going smoothly before your relationship ended but, in the hopes of finding love, you may have looked the other way. Try not to do this. Try not to settle in any part of your life, and know your worth in the boardroom, when you’re looking for love, or in your friendships. By valuing yourself and holding people to a high standard, you’ll spend less time with people who don’t value you at that level.

Know What You’re Up Against

When you’re right in the thick of a relationship and it’s not working, you may not be able to easily see why things are going wrong. You can’t fix your love life if you don’t know what you’re up against and so you may need to take a step back from the situation.

One way to do this is to just make a list of pros and cons, or of things that don’t delight you about your partner. You can also look for outside advice, asking your friends for their opinion or going to someone like a psychic as with psychic readings they can help you find a way forward through any relationship issues. Their special gift helps them see future possibilities and help you make better choices, while psychics can also suggest how you can move through relationship difficulties and learn from the past.

Why Do You Want a Relationship?

You can also ask yourself why you want a relationship. When asked why they want a relationship, some people say that they want someone to love them, that they want children, or that they are craving romantic, emotional or financial stability. Some people may also say that they want to have a partner so that they can grow and learn together.

Without judging your reasons, knowing why you want a relationship can help you search for love better. You can look for a partner who wants the same thing as you and quickly walk past those who want something different to you.

Your love life isn’t “broken,” and it’s not unfixable. You may have faced some challenges but by addressing the issues in your love life, you can find the love you’re looking for.